The Unexpected Morale Building Power of Cancer

The Unexpected Morale Building Power of Cancer

We were all shocked to hear the news.  Cancer.  He has cancer.  I couldn’t say the word.  It was like western Nebraska sand burrs on my tongue.  I listened carefully as my friend and co-worker revealed the news to me only days after learning it himself.  He was eerily calm with an assurance this wasn’t that big of a deal.  […]

Living Love

Living Love

Ned Gillium, a young First Christian Church minister with an edge, went to Mississippi in July of 1965 and assisted blacks in registering to vote.  Widowed now, Ned celebrated 59 anniversaries with his beautiful wife, Ann.  They raised amazing children and have great pride in the grandkids who, as adults, are adventurous and travel regularly.  Ned is 88, […]

Final Update: 45 Things while 45

Final Update: 45 Things while 45

My 46th birthday has come and gone recently so I wanted to give a final tally for what I completed, what I utterly failed to complete, and what I discovered was important along the way. Here goes…true confessions. Bad news first.  I failed to lose weight and get down to 145, do girl trips with my friends, successfully […]

Funk Prevention: How to Feel Alive on an Uninspired Day

Funk Prevention: How to Feel Alive on an Uninspired Day

I live for those days when the colors of nature appear brighter to me and birds provide a symphony of beautiful song.  Nothing could possibly go wrong.  I’m ON!  I’m bringing my A-game to everything from relationships to the board room.  I’m witty and beautiful and eloquent and ALIVE!  I feel almost bulletproof.  No, I’m […]

Motherhood: Our Privilege

Motherhood: Our Privilege

Disclaimer: I wrote this particular blog in April 2012 and have been sitting on it all this time.  After some recent conversations with women who are navigating the obstacle course of kids in their late teens, I decided to go ahead and publish it. My daughter looked at me with complete disdain this morning muttering about […]

Transitions: Ridin’ Side Saddle without the Reins in Your Hands

Transitions: Ridin’ Side Saddle without the Reins in Your Hands

My dad always says to me, “A girl needs a plan.”  I’ve been hearing this since I was a child.  As a teen I rolled my eyes as he uttered the words and even mocked him a time or two.  As an adult, I’ve embraced his words, spoken them over my kids, and am regularly mocked as well.  […]

Life Looking FUBAR? Look Again!

Life Looking FUBAR? Look Again!

Growing up a perfectionist overachiever is hard work and even harder on the emotional bank account.  The world doesn’t have to tell you what a screw up you are because you constantly find reasons to berate yourself.  Right? Then, you actually DO screw up.  Maybe it’s in college or you buy a business that isn’t […]

What Have I Done With My Life? And other not so inspired musings on aging

What Have I Done With My Life? And other not so inspired musings on aging

Well, I think I may be nearing acceptance.  My 45th birthday was in October and I’ve been steadily working on my list of 45 things to do while 45.  Even I cannot deny, and I’m an expert in denial, that this is probably my half-way point. Based upon the longevity of my ancestors, 90 is […]

Make Love to Your Treadmill or Tuck in Your Belly

Make Love to Your Treadmill or Tuck in Your Belly

Yes.  That’s TUCK, not suck.  Today I’m being forced…yes, forced…to see myself out loud.  I just tucked my “I’ve had three kids (two by c-section) and love Chardonnay” belly into my pants while sitting at my desk. Ugh!  The one thing I used to be great at was working out.  I was disciplined. And now?  Well, if […]

Thoughts. Words. Actions. Results.

Thoughts. Words. Actions. Results.

“I don’t know how I was elected to pick up everyone else’s crap around this (insert your favorite curse word here) house,” I thought to myself.  “No wonder I can’t get anything done.  The majority of my time is committed to these PEOPLE and their MESS.”  You know how the mental tape begins to play.  In walks favorite husband so far.  I bite […]

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